Friday, August 31, 2007

House of Shrieks


Hi all! So the honeymoon is over and it only took one day. I knew it was just a matter of time before it all kicked in for him. Today has been a combo of fantastically happy giggly times and really miserable eardrum-busting bad times. Most of the bad seem to center around us either leaving the room and leaving him behind, daring to put him down on the floor, sitting down while holding him, not shoveling food in fast enough, taking away the bottle before he has sucked it dry, not understanding that he was hungry again already even though I had just fed him an hour ago, and not realizing that an hour and a half is an adequate amount of playtime before napping again. It's all a learning process we are slowly but surely learning. I have decided, however, that the Bjorn is my new best friend (Thanks, Mer!). After 20 minutes of the previously mentioned earth-shattering screaming, I found that sticking him in there and walking around the apartment worked wonders. He still wouldn't let me sit down or even stand still- except for the three minutes when he was mesmerized by some monkeys on the TV- but anything is better than the shrieking. I am going to be hearing it in my sleep. But really he is just so sweet that I can't be mad at him. Frustrated, yes. Mad, no. And and I have found that he is fantastic when we go out for walks. We went out last evening to the amusement park across the river and walked around for an hour and he absolutely loved it. We watched the roller coaster and the twirly rides and had fun just wandering around watching people eat cotton candy and ice cream and the popcorn lady making popcorn and people playing games. It was really nice and I think we may have some people join us tonight if they can make it. Anyway, I know it sounds like our day was kind of awful but it really wasn't. I was expecting the transition to be much worse than it is- maybe just not so loud. Oh and we made reservations flight reservations today to both Almaty (Tuesday) and home to DC (Saturday). I can't believe that we will be leaving in week. Both of us are really ready to get home and be in our own space, but I will still be sad. I hate goodbyes in general (Peter makes fun of me because I always get all vaklempt when saying goodbye to Carson or whoever when they visit us in DC) but I think that this goodbye will be especially hard. Of course, we are planning on returning in a couple of years for Rinat's sister so I guess it will just be 'til next time rather goodbye. And while we're on that subject, I'm outta here. I have to take advantage of Peter taking over Rinat duty and get something to eat. Bye! -m
Our internet is not working so great again and so this post didn't get added earlier when I wrote it. So I added the above photo from tonight. Two of the other couples met up with us at the park and strolled around until Rinat started telling us it was time for bed. He fell asleep about 1 minute after this was taken. Bye again -m

17 comments:

Mollie said...

Fantastic picture! Your happiness shows in your faces! xoxo--

Mollie

Mollie said...

Fantastic picture! Your happiness shows in your faces! xoxo--

Mollie

Jaimie & Gena said...

I can gladly say BEEN THERE DONE THAT! and SURVIVED :) It really is frustrating but it gets better trust me. Usually about Almaty they are kind of comfy and then their whole world turns upside down again brining them home. Just a suggestion that we didn't think of. Keep something that "smells" like Kaz that you can put in his bed and bring it home with you and see if that is comforting at all. Hope it works. It is just so much for them to go through but consistancy pays off. He is such a cute baby! Congratulations! Gena , Astana mommy to Berik

Jaimie & Gena said...

I can gladly say BEEN THERE DONE THAT! and SURVIVED :) It really is frustrating but it gets better trust me. Usually about Almaty they are kind of comfy and then their whole world turns upside down again brining them home. Just a suggestion that we didn't think of. Keep something that "smells" like Kaz that you can put in his bed and bring it home with you and see if that is comforting at all. Hope it works. It is just so much for them to go through but consistancy pays off. He is such a cute baby! Congratulations! Gena , Astana mommy to Berik

JG said...

The shrieks around food and the bottle are very familiar to me. I wonder what it is about the way they feed the kids in the baby house ... is it just the speed? At any rate, most of the shrieking has subsided, even the bottle ones, and now it's not every meal that induces a tantrum. She does shriek at the end of books which is kinda cute since she didn't really 'get' books till a few weeks ago. It really does get better and easier each day. --JG (mother to Kiana)

JG said...

The shrieks around food and the bottle are very familiar to me. I wonder what it is about the way they feed the kids in the baby house ... is it just the speed? At any rate, most of the shrieking has subsided, even the bottle ones, and now it's not every meal that induces a tantrum. She does shriek at the end of books which is kinda cute since she didn't really 'get' books till a few weeks ago. It really does get better and easier each day. --JG (mother to Kiana)

Eileen said...

I can very much sympathize with the crying as we just did the crying it out thing with Barrett in order to teach him to put himself to sleep (it was clear that he was ready for this as nothing we did seemed to help). We caught a lucky break and after just a few tough days of fussing, he caught on and is a terrific sleeper already. You will get him on a schedule soon, and if not, you can always have Meredith come over and babysit during the shrieks while you and Peter go out! teehee

Don't worry, the honeymoon isn't over...it is just beginning!!!

Eileen said...

I can very much sympathize with the crying as we just did the crying it out thing with Barrett in order to teach him to put himself to sleep (it was clear that he was ready for this as nothing we did seemed to help). We caught a lucky break and after just a few tough days of fussing, he caught on and is a terrific sleeper already. You will get him on a schedule soon, and if not, you can always have Meredith come over and babysit during the shrieks while you and Peter go out! teehee

Don't worry, the honeymoon isn't over...it is just beginning!!!

Meredith said...

Lynden said he bets he loves that bjorn b'c of all the personal contact. glad the it's being put to good use. we went to jazz in the sculpture garden at teh natl gallery last night--can't wait til all of you are back to join us. He'll love the music. Caroline danced a lot. And about this dropping him off when he's screaming...well I guess I owe peter for taking C when Lynden and I had that puking bug at the same time right?

Meredith said...

Lynden said he bets he loves that bjorn b'c of all the personal contact. glad the it's being put to good use. we went to jazz in the sculpture garden at teh natl gallery last night--can't wait til all of you are back to join us. He'll love the music. Caroline danced a lot. And about this dropping him off when he's screaming...well I guess I owe peter for taking C when Lynden and I had that puking bug at the same time right?

Carson said...

I can not believe that you are headed home in a week. Crazy....I know you will be glad to get in your own bed and all that and get Rinat on our time. Wish I lived down the street and could run over and play. Good luck over the next week i know it will be busy.

Susan said...

love the family pic of you guys!! And, since I am addicted to blogs, I can tell you from most adequate research that everyone goes thru what you're going thru. You have a great attitude. Hopefully, if I ever get to Kaz (yes, can you tell i have NOT rec'd my stinkin i-171h this week!!??!!), I will be mentally prepared. I did purchase an ergo carrier and have been practicing with my freinds babies.
So exciting you're going home in a week. That is so cool.

Love your blog. Thanks for letting me stalk. I was telling my running friends about you on our run yesterday morning, and was getting all teary eyed talking about how much you love your son and how beautiful it was watching a family form. My one friend suggested "maybe you shouldn't be reading blogs for awhile" cuz you get so sad when your mail comes and that form isn't there. LOL

:)

Susan said...

love the family pic of you guys!! And, since I am addicted to blogs, I can tell you from most adequate research that everyone goes thru what you're going thru. You have a great attitude. Hopefully, if I ever get to Kaz (yes, can you tell i have NOT rec'd my stinkin i-171h this week!!??!!), I will be mentally prepared. I did purchase an ergo carrier and have been practicing with my freinds babies.
So exciting you're going home in a week. That is so cool.

Love your blog. Thanks for letting me stalk. I was telling my running friends about you on our run yesterday morning, and was getting all teary eyed talking about how much you love your son and how beautiful it was watching a family form. My one friend suggested "maybe you shouldn't be reading blogs for awhile" cuz you get so sad when your mail comes and that form isn't there. LOL

:)

Jennifer said...

Selfishly, I can't believe we're going to be gone when you get home! Argh! We'll be back on the 10th and will stalk you then...

No doubt in my mind Rinat will quickly learn his new routine and the shrieking will subside! Although sounds like you're handling it MUCH better than I ever did with Hads.

We miss you -- and can't wait for our neighbors to return! Maybe Rinat will like the buses on Yuma. Caroline taught Hadley how to get the drivers to honk -- she loves it!

xoxoxo
The Middletons

Jennifer said...

Selfishly, I can't believe we're going to be gone when you get home! Argh! We'll be back on the 10th and will stalk you then...

No doubt in my mind Rinat will quickly learn his new routine and the shrieking will subside! Although sounds like you're handling it MUCH better than I ever did with Hads.

We miss you -- and can't wait for our neighbors to return! Maybe Rinat will like the buses on Yuma. Caroline taught Hadley how to get the drivers to honk -- she loves it!

xoxoxo
The Middletons

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful picture of you 3. When I showed it to Nancy....she screamed "that baby is precious...isn't he darling. What a fabulous picture!" I must admit I have a few tears in my eyes. Tears of pride.
Nancy can't wait to get him in some Toad'ly Kids clothes, if that is ok with Rinat's Mother :)
Have a great last week there!
Love,
Dad

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful picture of you 3. When I showed it to Nancy....she screamed "that baby is precious...isn't he darling. What a fabulous picture!" I must admit I have a few tears in my eyes. Tears of pride.
Nancy can't wait to get him in some Toad'ly Kids clothes, if that is ok with Rinat's Mother :)
Have a great last week there!
Love,
Dad